Setting Realistic Expectations and Goals

Setting Realistic Goals & Expectations



As we bring in the new year, a new semester, we may be feeling some energy or pressure to make some changes to our life. We may want to shed some negativity from 2018 and maybe some things from 2017, 2016 and even beyond. Recognize that the “new year, new you” is not instant as you may like. It may also be the case that it may be “new year, same you” and that is okay. Whatever you choose to do with 2019, know that it is up to you and it will go at the speed it needs to go. Be patient. Know there will be progress but there may be some setbacks. That is part of growth and change.

The best way to achieve goals is by clearly defining them. There may be a long term goal you have in mind but the best way to accomplish them is by breaking it into smaller more manageable goals.  Large goals are easier to break because they can overwhelm us and they can seem pretty distant. In fact, if you chip away little by little at the goal.

Set each goal with a positive purpose

  • When thinking about your goals, do you have the energy, capacity, motivation to accomplish them?
  • What resources or support do you need to get them done?
  • Pay attention to your gut when it tells you “I must do this” vs “I’m excited to do this”. That excitement will carry you closer to an accomplishment

Set SMART Goals

  • Specific.
  • Measurable.
  • Attainable.
  • Relevant.
  • Time Bound.

Write your realistic goals down

  • Writing your goals down will turn your “I want to” to “I will”. The physical act of writing will remind you and be a visible reminder.

Ready, set, go!

  • Set your goals into action! Add it to your schedule. Add times to check in with yourself, your energy, your support system, and resources. There may be times you need to re-assess.

Practice a growth mindset

Stanford psychologist Carolyn Dweck proposes that there are two attitudes towards failure – fixed mindset and growth mindset. Fixed mindset is the belief that intelligence and personal character are static, and growth mindset is the belief that these things can be developed. It is important to cultivate a growth mindset because this view creates a love of learning and a resilience that is important for success. Learn more about growth mindset here Links to an external site..

Celebrate accomplishments

How ever small, there is progress! There is even growth in setbacks! You are becoming more knowledgeable in what to do next time. Make sure to enjoy those wins!

 

Looking for additional information about how to avoid social comparisons? Check out the resources below;

  • Eccles, J. S., & Wigfield, A. (2002). Motivational beliefs, values, and goals. Annual review of psychology,

53(1), 109-132.